No-one wants to be fighting all the time, but too many couples find themselves doing little else. Arguing becomes a habit and even the littlest things quickly turn into World War III.
It’s often hard to know which is worse, the fighting itself or the anxiety of knowing that the next argument is just around the corner.
Couples counseling can help
Sometimes couples get stuck in cycles of having the same fight. Whether you are dating or married, I can help you identify your negative cycles and put new responses into place. Often, the fighting is not really about the argument itself, but rather the vulnerable emotions that are not expressed. My approach with EFT focuses on creating a more secure emotional bond between you and your partner. Through this process, you can learn to express deep underlying emotions from a place of vulnerability and ask for your needs to be met. You can learn to be more empathetic and emotionally available for each other, create new ways of interacting, and strengthen the attachment bond and sense of security you find with each other.
You and your partner can find a way to stop arguing. No-one wants to live in a domestic war zone. Through therapy together, you will learn how to stop fighting all the time and to begin peacefully communicating again. This means learning to express yourself in a way that is authentic and real but not hurtful. It also means learning to listen to what your partner has to say. Life with another person will always bring disagreements. No two people are perfectly matched. Couples therapy is not about papering over the differences between you, but creating the environment where you can be yourself with your partner in an atmosphere of peace.
Help is available
You don’t have to suffer endless arguments forever. If you want to end the misery and build a happy life with your partner, reach out today.
Contact me for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation to see if my services are a good fit for you.
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